20 yr old female..needs advice?

Im 20 and just found out im pregnant. My mama told me the only way I can stay home is if I get an abortion. I don't feel it is right however. I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I told her I was going to get the abortion just so I can stay at home because I just got a new job making 10.20 an house. What do I do? 20 yr old female..needs advice?
Is there a Planned Parenthood office near where you live so you can go for counseling to see what your options are? Maybe your Mom is just so upset she offered the ultimatum out of anger, but once she calms down she'll work with you to find other solutions. Talk to a doctor, or nurse practitioner as soon as possible and then talk to Mom again, and see if she relents, but good luck in any event.20 yr old female..needs advice?
Tell your mom I said she is ******* worthless....








I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant and my mom never kicked me out...your an adult now so screw it you don't need her....get your wn place and apply for some type of welfare assistance...they have wic and food stamps and **** to help you pay your utilities if your unable to
If you don't feel that it's right-- don't do it. And it's not because I'm against a woman's right to choose. In fact, I had one, and it's not fun. Because for those of us who have gone through with it (and who have a conscience), there's a lot of blame and animosity towards the person who influenced you the most to get it. There's a lot of programs out there (besides welfare) that you can try to get on. In fact, I signed up with subsidized housing (contact your local county housing authority office). They give priority to women and children, and will actually assist with paying rent (I only had to pay $200 a month on a $700 apartment, while being a single mom). With all the hormones making you feel emotional, you shouldn't have to deal with people who don't support you. Try finding a church to start attending (I started myself- and no, they're not all bible-thumpers). Getting a good group of people from places like that, will help network you with babysitters, and other people who will help bring you up, rather than bring you down. Good Luck!
Keep your baby.





You're 20 years old. It's probably about time to move out anyways.





Maybe you could move in with the baby's father?
When I turned 18 I was out of the house so I just dont see the problem here. You should move out either way and make the decision yourself.
move out.


apply for welfare housing if you need it?


thats a tough one but you're 20 and its time you start your own life.
You're 20 years old! Why are you still living at home? If you were 14 the story may be a bit different but you are 20 years old...your an adult. Take care of your responsibilities and don't you dare lean on your mom as an excuse to make the biggest mistake of your life. There is a lot of help out there for single moms with low income, get a hold of the family planning center at your local health department and they will point you in all the right directions. God has given you what some women try for YEARS to get, be appreciative of your gift and take care of that baby!
It is your decision to make if you want to keep the baby or not, do not let anyone else pressure you into a decision. If you plan on keeping the baby there is help out there check with your local DHS office they can help you with housing and preparing for the baby. If you do not plan on keeping the baby (adoption) speak with an agency and sometimes they can help if you want to give the baby up. But just remember it is your decision......
WELL I WOULD MOVE OUT. IF YOU DON'T THINK ITS RIGHT WELL DON'T DO IT.





MOVE TO AN APARTMENT AND MAKE THE BEST OF IT SHE WILL LATER REALIZE THIS WAS THE BEST THING AND WELL SEEK SOME HELP FROM YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS :]






I say go to the dad! you and your boyfriend have been trying to get pregos, so now it his responsibility too. Tell him! Not being mean:)
Please don't get an abortion. Im 20 years old too and my fiance who is 25 years old are trying to have a baby and we are unable to. We tried about twice to conceive but it has failed. just 2 weeks ago we planned to have a baby. i didn't get my period for 2 weeks (thinking that i was pregnant) but i once again got my period.


Move out and have your baby. why not move out with the baby's father?
Dont kill the baby, I'm assuming your done school, never the less you were mature enough to make that baby dont do the immature thing and kill it.



Save as much of your money as possible. Talk to the father - figure out if he is going to be of any help. (unless he is abusive or something - in that case, don't even let him know about the baby) And look for a place of your own. A small 1 bedroom or studio apartment should be fine with a newborn, as long as it is safe and reasonably clean.





Your mother has no right to demand you get an abortion. But this isn't exactly something you can hide from her, so you'll have to tell her. Just tell her that you couldn't go through with it. You feel that it would be murder or whatever your views on abortion are. Let her know that if she wants you out of the house - you will get out ASAP, but you need to wait until you have some money saved up and a place to live.





Also, think of what other relatives you have. I got pregnant when I was 20 and had to move in with my grandmother for a little over a year. ... Just try to make things as comfortable on them as possible if you have to move in with relatives.





That's about all the advice I have for you for now. If you are making $10.20 an hour, you can hopefully get by on your own if your mom really does kick you out. But who knows? She might just need a few days or weeks to adjust to the idea. You might get to stay with her until you are really ready to be on your own. (like when your baby is a year old or so)





Congratulations. ... I hope this turns out to be a wonderful experience for you.
Don't do it... If you do it for someone else, you will regret it. I was just reading another question and a woman was in the same position as you and did get the abortion. Now, years later she is unable to concieve and regrets the abortion... that's a lot to live with for the rest of your life. Try and ask around at your new job and see if some wants to get a place with you... Good luck!
you cannot lie just to stay home. you will eventually start to show and when she finds out, it will be worse than before. you need to sit down and talk with her -- tell her your feelings on the matter. if she is still for you moving out, maybr offer to pay her a small rent to live at home?
First of all there is no one in this world that can tell you to kill your baby. Your mom needs to change her attitude and realize that by asking you to do that she would be losing her grand baby and possibly her daughter. You are old enough though to be living on your own. I would move out. There is no one in this world that I love more than my children and they will always be first.
Your 20 years old..its your decision, not your moms.





Abortion is never the answer though, the better choice is to give he/she up for adoption.





Maybe by then your mom will be more open about it, and she may even decide to help you raise the baby.








Good luck though. =]
I was 19 when I had my first so I'll be the first to tell you that it's a hard job but a worthwhile one if you're up for it. You're 20, already an adult, move out, find government housing and help to get you on your feet, read about parenting, join a young mother's parenting group......good luck.