Getting over an Ex Girlfriend.....not too easy, need some female advice?

So I am now acknowledging the fact that I will never see my Ex Girlfriend ever again, and that nothing that I can do can change the way she feels about me. She has been with someone else and she is happy about the way things are; I haven't been and never will ever have any of those feelings reciprocated. I know that I cannot be a pest, and that includes me not sending texts even once a month! Removing the number from the phone won't be fun, but it is a necessity.





I asked for females advice because men tend to completely forget about the fact that, yes, there is a human at the other end of this, and although the brute facts carry the most weight, that is not what I need! I know them all, your emotions don't speak English.


I can't just go and find a rebound girl, as that would be unfair to the girl. How do I go about getting back on track with my own life, as opposed to sitting around moping?





FYI, I posted a question about nagging, and promptly deleted it; it hurt a little too much.Getting over an Ex Girlfriend.....not too easy, need some female advice?
First of all my heart goes out to you, Getting another woman is out of the question You need to take the time to get back on track with your life, What is important here is you!!! we all face things in life that are very hard at times .I lost to family members this year and know how precious life is.It is a gift


you need to concentrate on your life and get your self into things that will take your life in another direction that will make you advance in your life forget her the best you can and move on.you have a life to live and as hard as it may seem it gets easier,go out and start doing things you enjoy,Having some one in your life is not the most important thing Getting your self together is what is important


good luckGetting over an Ex Girlfriend.....not too easy, need some female advice?
I think you need to separate yourself from her and getting rid of things that remind you of her. I don't think you should find another girl, I think you need to heal and you haven't done that. But what I do think is focus your attention on the friends you have hang out with them do things that are fun with them. Time will heal all wounds. As someone told me, in a year you'll see that it was good your not with her, in 2 you'll would have moved on.
if you two dated for a long time


and you were really in love,


it will take a while.


you never really completely forget someone you were once in love with,


and i would sugst not going for a rebound girl


its the wrong way to go, for both you and her.


if your ex seriously hates you, dont go near her,


but if she just doesnt love you anymore and/or is NICE,


if you see her somewhere, maybe school or at a store,


say hi


and act sort of aloof


like maybe your love life is really working out for you


contrary to interpretation, this does NOT mean you're trying to make her jealous,


it just means you two aren't close anymore, not even friends


and wearing your heart on your sleeve is a foolish thing to do.





it does get rather annoying to have a stalkerish exboyfriend, though.


dont be surprised if you call or text her and she yells at you


i think deleting her from your phone is a good step,


but don't try to forget her.


it will never happen, you will never forget her. the pain will fade away eventually and remain in a tiny corner of your heart, but the more you try to forget, the more you will think about her.





there's no easy way to get over someone, all i can tell you is that it will happen eventually.


think about it this way: it's better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.





i know it's cliche, but think about it, it really is true.


think about the happy times, and this might make you more depressed about the fact that you're no longer together, but remember the good things.


be with your friends, they'll make you happy.


and somewhere down the road, when you find another girl, you will have your emotional baggage, but sometimes it just takes another person to erase the painful memories of this relationship.
I had to get over a very addicting love that was like shooting heroine - I could not get enough. When the relationship came to a crashing end, I knew if I was going to get over this guy, I would have to delete all his phone numbers, e-mail addresses, etc. I drew a picture of me flying away from him and loaded his last remaining items in my home and drove them out to his Mom. I gave her a big hug goodby. Driving home, I crossed over the bay bridge and threw the ruby and diamond ring he gave me over the side, into the bay. It was really important that I did something personnaly symbolic of our relationship being over. It took me at least a year going cold turkey to completely get him out of my blood - addiction is never easy. While I worked to get over him, I kept busy. Be sure as each weekend approaches you have a plan with friends or by yourself to go to a great (non-romantic) movie, go to the gym, and make yourself say hi to people and start simple conversations, even if it's just about the weather. Soon your gloomy days will be replaced with sunshine one new memory at a time and you will no longer crave old love and will most likely have a new and much better love in your life, starting with loving yourself a whole lot more! Lastly remeber, the best revenge is simply living happily everafter!
A lot of it is time. You sound like a level-headed guy and you are taking the right steps, try and surround yourself with friends and if theres any you can talk to about it and just get it all out, well that always helps. Sometimes a person just needs to be heard. Get yourself up and get out, or find a new hobby, something beneficial to you to help take your mind off the break up when you start to think about it. A little depression is normal after most break ups, just don't let it consume you. Find that solid group of friends or friend and just keep moving on, after awhile it will get easier and you will think of her less and less.





Try this website for a lot of advice columns and readers letters, maybe you'll identify with some of them and be able to find more advice. http://www.breakupgirl.net/





When you find yourself moping at home, not wanting to do anything, thats when you need to get up, get ready and go do something. Moving on can suck but you can do it.





Just the fact that you are concerned about yourself is a step in the right direction. If things still dont start getting better after a while you might want to talk to a counseler for a bit just to help you over the hump. Theres no shame in it and it can be very helpful.
You need to focus on yourself during this time. Finding another girl right now would be disasterous for both of you. It will get easier as the days go by. I know this sounds wrong, but you have to be selfish right now in order to move on. I would suggest taking a trip with a male friend, or by yourself. Thank you and may GOD bless.
I am sorry you are going through this...it is very hard and we have all been through it....so you are not alone.





The only thing that helps is time...and try to keep busy. Staying home being sad never helps.





One thing I always thought every time a realationship ended was that my Mr. Right was waiting for me too and when one relationship ended I knew I was one more person closer to meeting the one. You know what I mean.





There is a girl out there waiting for you just like you are waiting for her. It is hard to think of now but you will get over her and find a girl who is better for you and you will be so happy.





Time is your pain but it is also your cure.


You need to close the book on this completely to move on...a new and exciting chapter in your life is beginning and something exciting is just around the corner for you.





IF someone doesn't realize what you have to offer them then they are not the right person for you. Go look for that girl who knows your worth and loves you for it.





Walk away from this girl - litterally. If you keep things lurking around about her you will never get over her...you need to move on.





Good luck


Jade
You will need time to grieve as this is a true loss for you. And you will need to move on. I don't know how recent this hurt is, but if your ex is happy, honey, be adult and be happy for her.





Just don't forget as you heal that life will go on, the world will still keep on spinning, and that you too, will one day find another woman who will make you feel wonderful.





Life is all about change, it's the one constant. I wish you well, and if you can't cope, find a professional therapist to help you work through the pain and anger. Because if you don't work your way through it, you will be in no shape to meet or be with ANYbody. And you want to be happy someday, right?





You can't force anybody to change their view, but you can certainly work on yours. Get help, take time to grieve, then move on. Don't use it as a sham or an excuse to avoid life.





Just remember: even the cutest guys and gals have gotten dumped at least once in their lives. Believe me. Life goes on.
Keep your life very busy so you have no downtime to think about her
why did u break up??? was it a good reason? u broke up with who? and ur right- there is a human at the other end of the situation. it hurts to have someone break up with u. if u broke up with her, did u look her in the eyes when u said that u were breaking up? because when i broke up w/ my x i looked in his eyes, and i know how it felt to be him. there was so much f-ing saddness there it made ME want to cry. but i had to do it. u may think i didnt, but i HAD to. if u didnt have too, u just wanted to, i would call u a no good shallow son of a *^%26amp;%h.


hope it helps in at least ONE way.
you might not want a rebound girl but i think you need someone to take your mind off of heer.. or just start hanging out with the guys.. i just try to keep myself as occupied as possible
To quote Shaun of the Dead, '; I'm not going to say, you know, there's plenty more fish in the sea. I'm not going to say if you love her let her go, and I'm not going to bombard you with cliches. But what I will say is this - it's not the end of the world ';. I don't know, it's the first thing that popped in my head when I read your question, lol. I know breakups can be absolutely horrible and you know what? You should feel sad. It's healthy. After a while though, maybe like a month or so, try to move on. Get all of her stuff out of your house. Delete her from myspace, buddy lists, cell phones whatever. I found this effective when me and my fiance broke up, put up pictures of friends or family to remind yourself of the fun you have without her and of all the people that still love you. Exercising lifts the spirits too. Try movie and music therapy. It's hard but I know you'll be fine. Best of luck! 8)
Yes break ups are so hard to deal with. Been there done that. What I did was I started to do things to occupy my mind and my time.. Going out with friends was good, and just getting over him was something I know I had to do.





PPL say getting another mate will ease the pain, I didn't want to be with anyone. So I just let time heal itself. After some time I still missed him, but I knew it was over. I left him, and I think I hurted more then he did, he tried coming back, but I said no.








My model is if it didn't work out the first time around, there will be no second. Might sound mean, but that's just me.hell I've tried the second, still didn't work.
Well when you find yourself sitting around bein sad and thinkin about the good memories dont ... instead turn your thoughts to the bad things and bad memories.. this will be hard at first , but it will in time make you better! you will start to not want to think about her because you will get mad.. and then the most important part is you have to get back to what makes you happy! not happy when you were with her.. but what has always made you happy. maybe something you havent enjoyed for a while.. get back to the basics and dont get serious for a while.. you have to take care of you first and forget about everyone else..when you accomplish this things will start to fall into place.. good luck and stay strong








ok all the people sayin that you need to get everything out of your life that makes you think of her are bein completely irrational anyone who has been through a bad breakup knows this would be impossible what you need to do is make New memories for these things that do not involve her.. this is the only logical way..
Give it time. Best advice. ;D
You need to stop making this relationship the center of your world. It seems to be truly over, so that is just a waste of energy. Yes, this is easier said than done, but it CAN be done. Maybe it would be best to think about doing things that you enjoy, putting the focus back on you for a while (avoiding that rebound relationship headache). I feel confident that if you are able to move on, and get back into your own interests....you'll find someone new.





Good luck!
Try to do away with everything that reminds you of her. Go out and keep busy. Do NOT sit in the house all of the time! Get a makeover....change you clothes into nicer ones and things like that. Believe it or not, it will help boost your feelings of self worth. Pray for the strength to get through this. Spen time with friends and family. Try to keep her out of yourmind. When she enters your mind, think of the negative things about her and none of the good times. Keep at it, and you will eventually begin to feel better about it and about yourself. I will pray for you as well. It is one of the hardest things you will have to go through. A broken heart will mend with time. Do not give up on it. The more you distance yourself from her, the better off you will be.
You need to focus on yourself, your work, your family, your friends, whatever and not even think about another girl. Just hang out and do what you do, see what your life is like without any romantic complications. Once some time has passed and you aren't thinking about her so much anymore, you will start to feel ready and over her. Until you know that your life is fine without her, you will still miss her. Women like confident and self-sufficient men. Become one and you will feel better about yourself and, eventually, ready for a new relationship. Good luck.
Sounds to me that you already know what you need to do to get on with your life. You are a very realistic person and that is good start to get your life back on track. I do agree that do not need a new female in your life right now. They say the average man at least need 6 month before he should begin dating again. Give yourself that time, and spend some time doing something for yourself, like take a weekend visiting with some family or friend that you have not seen in a while. Do things for you focus on yourself and try, even though you will have times you will miss her and what you had. When you, allow yourself that, take the time to be sad and then pick yourself back up and carry on. I know how you feel, but when the time is right start a new relationship you will know it. Down the road you will look back on the prior relationship as a learning experience. Since it was not meant to be then you take the good out of it and learn from the bad. You will be a better person and your future female friend will benefit from what you learned.





Good Luck!!!
A rebound relationship isn't a healthy relationship any way as you obviously know and are very considerate about:)


There is no perfect way to just get over someone that you had deep feelings for.However you're on the right track admitting to yourself that you can no longer do things such as texting or calling and so on is a good step.The best step though is admitting that you KNOW she's happy in her new relationship and obviously you love you her enough to step aside and let her move forward in her life.Those are very gentlemanly things to do as well as a very strong step for you in moving forward.


I suggest that you keep going through your emotions of acceptance.The more you accept things that aren't within your control the more you are able to let go at your own pace.Everyone heals from broken hearts differently you're already at the beginning stages of ';you'; time which comes after the acceptance of her moving on and letting go.So start working on the you time start readjusting to life without her.Treat yourself to movies to make you emotional enough and even though you're a man its okay to cry.If you didn't cry then I'd be worried it wasn't really love after all.Mourn the loss of the relationship until for you its comfortable again to just be YOU until its comfortable enough for you to take the next step which is moving forward....


When you have a broken heart standing still in my opinion is healthier then going full blast ahead.Standing still gives you time to mourn,heal,forgive,accept.Standing still prepares you to move forward WITHOUT baggage.And you don't want baggage when you finally decide to date again...





Good Luck %26amp; Take It @ Your Own Pace,


M.G
It's going to take a while before you will over come your pain. But I do think that you will find someone else to cover your pain when you least expect it....
I know it won't be easy, but all you need is some time. And maybe something constructive to do that will probably take your mind off of the girl you're trying to get over. When my boyfriend and I broke up, it hurt a lot, But I worked a lot of overtime and started working out, and before I knew it, I was over him and I had saved money and gotten back into shape!! I actually lost 25 lbs!! Good luck. I hope you get over her fast.





AZ
go find another girl to make her jealose!~!
time will heal all
i'm sorry but try to do things to keep her off your mind like hang out with your guy friends and play some sports or go see a game
Ask yourself why you are holding on to her? Why are you not letting go. It is within yourself. No one will have the right answer for you. The best therapy you can find...is for someone to ask you questions..and for you to come up with the answer. No one has walked in your shoes. I know for me, when I was with someone, and then we broke it off..I would look at the relationship... be accountable for whatever happened.. accept it, and move on. Dont make yourself wrong for it being over. Look at it as a lesson in your life, and someday you will look back on it, and when you are in another relationship, you will say.. that is why I was in that one... this is what I learned.... and you will smile. Life is about lessons.. figure out what you learned from that ..and you will be able to move ahead.. Good luck!!
Is there something that you have always wanted to do? Now would be the time to focus on yourself.
time is the only thing that will heal. you can't help the way you feel and nobody can change that for you just keep yourself busy to distract yourself and give time your right not good idea to get rebound girl thank you for not wanting to hurt anyone.
Fill your life with things you enjoy - and make yourself do them. Don't go out looking for anyone else, you are right that it's too soon. Just find out who you are, or who you want to be. Hang out with your friends, laugh every day. Try new things. Eventually the pain will dull. Don't try to rush, it takes time.
Find a new hobby, Join a club and find some new friends. If you're lucky enough you might find a girl you like.





Thinking about her and trying to get back with her will make it worse.
Whats your interests besides her? persue doing somthing you like or have wanted to do for a long time. Find somthing that will have your mind on somthing else. It worked for me with Divorce after a 6 year marriage. I'm now dating a nice girl and things are going well. relationships come and go, life will go on weather your endulging in self pitty or having fun.





PERSUE SOMTHING YOU HAVE


BEEN WANTING TO DO!!!!!!!!


make yourself happy and the rest will follow.