Mainly for Guys! But Female advice welcome!! what should i do about my marriage?

I've been married about 2 years and our relationship is changing or has changed. We are like best friends but the intimacy is not there. I really dont think he is cheating on me because we spend 24/7 together. And even when he is at work we are on the phone. We get along find, the intimacy part just is so gone. Im not fat or anything I look the same as i did when we got married. Could it be that he is tired of me and is bored. What can I do??? Should I just end the relationship? Or keep trying? I really love him and want it to work but I dont want to be hurt. I want to do what God wants me to do but Im not sure what that is. Any advice????Mainly for Guys! But Female advice welcome!! what should i do about my marriage?
We get busy and fall into monotony of daily life, what we often fail to do is the very things that brought us together in the first place. Now if your together 24/7 as you stated, maybe it is time for you to do some things apart with your friends of the same sex, then when you come back together you have some experiences to share. Even two people deeply in love need personal space to grow as a person, while the two of your grow together as a couple. When you are together, take the time to get to know what each other is intrigued by and make it a point to meet your partner in doing what they enjoy. Be open to doing new things, a date night,role play...whatever.





Also, if you look the same as you did when got married two years ago, how about a surprise make-over. When he leaves for work one day, meet up with a girlfriend... go to the spa (get massaged and relaxed), go get a new style (if your hair is short, go long...if it is long (and your husband hasnt expressed that he loves long hair, go short or get a sexy up do, change the color w/a non permanente rinse) get a new outfit, something totally opposite of what he is used to seeing. Keep the interest and the element of surprise at all times. Prep a sexy meal...chocolate covered strawberries, champagne,light delicacies that you can finger feed each other w/sexy slow music in the background (Kenny G...) after dinner, run him a bubble bath w/flower petals, bath oil and candlelight. Massage his temple as he relaxes in the tub. Wash him, when he gets out have him lay on the bed and give him a oil massage from head to toe and let the intimacy begin from then....





It says alot that you would even consider ending the relationship. Perhaps going to a relationship therapist to delve into the unknowns, or reading relationship rescue bookss would give you additional insights. There will always be things that we dont know and having professional advice doesnt reflect negatively on your relationship. What it should say is that you are committed to making your marriage work and putting in the time neccessary to ensure that year 2,3,4....80+++ are the best they can be, and that you both love each other on the last day of your life as much as you loved each other when you said ';I do';.Mainly for Guys! But Female advice welcome!! what should i do about my marriage?
I would keep trying...my wife recently moved out due to some of the same reasons....if ya want a strong relationship you have to work at it all the time.


Maybe try some new things to get him re interested.Alot of guys I know complain about their spouses not instigating sex and it bothers them.....we want to feel like we are wanted as much as women do. good luck
Ya know, any ice cream lover would tell you that they would get tired of eating the stuff 3 times a day seven days a week. I see your marriage kinda like that ice cream. I'm assuming you're talking about sexual intimacy. Perhaps you could plan a few days apart, and then when you're both back at home make a play date. Turn off the phones. turn on the music, and turn up the heat. It could get quite interesting.
I may not be up on the latest technology, but I did not know that God takes confessions via Yahoo answers nowadays. If you 'want to do what God wants' why are you are you asking for a public opinion. Sorry, but it seems you KNOW what the answer is and it's either too hard or not what you expected. Sorry, but that's life.
Plan romantic dates together, be ';intimate'; with one another, etc. If you are stuck at the friend stage at this point, maybe consider just being friends. Do you still feel like u are in love, or like you have a best friend? Take all that into consideration.
I think you should talk to him--he may be feeling the same as you.





You guys NEED to work this out before either of you get distracted by outside sources--and I speak as this happened to me in my 2nd yr of marriage--he cheated =(





Prevention is key!!!





Good luck!!!
When men get what they have focused on - you - part of their brain shuts down. A Stanford researcher discovered this. You are discovering part of what shuts down. To him you are becoming invisible. For get god and deal with reality.
Maybe he has a medical issue that is causing his libido to decrease? Many people have minor medical issues that decrease their sex drive. Confront him. If he says he's just not feeling it, ask him to get checked out.
ask him you two are at the boredom stage think of different things to spice things up marriage counseling wouldn't hurt either
Ask him to teach you how to turn him on. I am not being sarcastic - my wife almost never starts out in the mood - she lets me get her there.
God helps those who help themselves.


Stop being the '; friend'; and become a seductive wife!
Here's some female advice ...don't ask the male advice.
Do not leave just over this. Intimacy changes in a marriage. You really have to work on it even if you don't want to have sex just do it. Then you will remember how great it was to do it all the time and you can get back in the mood to do it even more. Try things you haven't tried before or change the environment that you are doing it in. You just have to work on it. Some nights I was to tired in my marriage be intimate and then we just went weeks without it. I realized you have to make it a point that it is important. Surprise him when he comes home or just do it when he doesn't expect it. Put the spark back into your marriage. Talk to him tell him you want the intimacy back!
There are dozens of reasons why intimacy stops in a marriage, but usually they aren't good. It can be caused by stress, work, financial worries, etc. It can also be that the couple just doesn't 'get' how sex works. The greatest advice I ever heard was ';You don't have to feel like having sex to have great sex.'; Too many couples wait for the feeling, and the reality is in our world of work and business and chores and relatives and demands, we can often go day after day without feeling like having sex, and soon those days turn into months and years. If you want to have sex, have it, set a date for sex, and make sure everything is set and nothing intrudes. Then have it, and see where it leads you.
Don't quit because you think it is over. If you have been married for two years I am sure you both are busy trying to keep the bills paid and all that goes with it. Don't end it because it isn't the same as it once was, your just starting to get to know each other. Some would say a baby would help but don't do that unless your both ready. If you are worried about what God says, then go to the Bible for advise. The Bible has wonderful advise for married couples. It isn't an outdated book. You can email me if you want to know how to find it because I felt the same way you did at one time and I am still married for 12 years now and the Bible has lead my life.
That's hard but you can fix it if he wants to keep the marriage going. It was hard but my sister-in-law had the same problem. Her and my brother had only been married for about 18 months. She hadn't gained any weight and looked the same. He said they had been together for 5 years before marriage and almost 2 years of marriage and the sex was becoming boring. It happens. You guys should try some new things in the bedroom like: light candles, play music during sex, bring in some food (feed each other strawberries and whipped cream), give each other massages before starting, try different positions. Also have date night as if you guys were dating and not married. Call him and ask him if he's not busy on Friday night and take him out and you pull out your cash/credit card to pay for it. I hope it works out!!!! Pray about it.
there could be several things going on from health issues to just


be bored. what you need to do is check it out. first go and get some good hot oil. and give your man a massage. and what ever he likes


to sip on. take him in to the bed room and go to work on him. and then


if nothing happens you will have narrowed it down to health are he has


something else really going on. there is no man i know who want be


willing and ready for sex after a nice full body massage. so go try some oil out.