';Ugly duckling syndrome?'; maybe? lol (Need both male/female advice)?

I'm an eighteen year-old male who is decent looking, funny, smart, and has some money. I think I may have low self-confidence. I want a girlfriend but I think its impossible because I'm not good enough. When I've mentioned this a few times, to people really close to me, they say I'm being ridiculous. Nobody seems to think I can't find a girl except me.





Up to about a year ago I had really bad acne and looked really ugly. Girls made fun of me.





Recently, then there was this really sweet and nice girl who I kinda fell for, that wasn't hot but pretty (skinny, miniscule breasts, but a really sweet face) and I tried to be sweet and she totally screwed me around.





So now, I don't even try and its making me look really weird. Like, I still have female friends and stuff but I've had times when a girl seems to like me and want to get close to me and when she does I just mess it up by acting really shy and awkward or rejecting her.





Anyway, I got to get out of this what should I do?';Ugly duckling syndrome?'; maybe? lol (Need both male/female advice)?
Well, I'd say that if you are the only one that thinks that you can't find a girl, then you are probably wrong! It does sound like you have low self-confidence and a lack of confidence though, and I am sure that some things that happened to you in your past caused you to feel that way. But that was in your past, and you are different now and can make a decision not to still feel that way. Maybe you need to spend more time focusing on your positive attributes and less time on trying to get a girlfriend, and it will just happen. Make a list of all the good things about you and keep adding to it and reviewing it several times a day, especially right before you go to bed.


Don't let a bad experience with one girl set the tone for the rest of your relationships. Act confident and you will begin to feel confident and that will make you even more attractive. Good luck!';Ugly duckling syndrome?'; maybe? lol (Need both male/female advice)?
Don't judge all girls by the behavoir of one - but maybe also review your behavoir. I'm not assuming you did this - but what some guys think is acting ';sweet'; I usually find patronising. (Plus, again I'm not saying you did this, but if she worked out you thought she wasn't hot and had miniscule breasts that would not have worked in your favour).





It's very hard for girls to tell what guys think when he's acting shy and awkward because it's not a stereotype you associate with men - not men you think are cute, anyway. If you retreat, they'll assume you're not interested. So you might have to fake at least confidence and friendliness, even if you can't get as far as flirtation. And at the very least, talk to her casually.Then let her do the flirting for a bit unitl you get more confident with it.

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