How to get that ';spark'; back?...(seeking female advice)?

My fiance' and I have been together for over 2 years now and have a beautiful 9 month old daughter. My fiance' has recently just started going to college full time and with her being at ';at-home'; mom and student, it seems to have really detracted from our own personal time and it seems we are losing that ';spark';. I know as well that her post-pardem med's has a side effect that lowers libido but I'm looking for tips on how to loosen her up again. I try taking care of our daughter as soon as I get home so that she can finish her homework but it doesn't seem to be helping much. I have known my fiance' for over 15 years and we've been very close friends all along. I offer to give her massage's as well as trying to clean and do the chores to free up her time but that isn't helping at all either. Am I just spinning my wheels here against the post-pardem and also the self-esteem issue of her not losing the ';baby-weight';. I know for sure that the weight she gained during pregnancy not going away has had a pretty big impact on her self-esteem, but even after I re-assure her on a daily basis, she still thinks I'm only saying it because I'm obligated, even when I am sincere. I know this is kind of long but its been bugging me and she feels bad that she doesn't have the libido she used to so it's hard to talk to her about it without making the issue worse. Thanks in advance.How to get that ';spark'; back?...(seeking female advice)?
Aww i really feel bad for you..it seems to me that you are trying really hard to do everything you can to lessen the ';work'; for her. That's very sweet of you. It takes time for women to get back to the way they look and feel, especially after a pregnancy. I think you should plan a romantic dinner with her...any upcoming occasion? if not...a night on the town is nice...get a babysitter for your daughter and go and and enjoy that time together. We are very stubborn when it comes to our looks..no matter how often you tell us that we're beautiful...we still dont' see ourselves as that but the opposite..don't take it personally. She probably has alot of stuff going on too and maybe she just needs time..she probably feels overwhelmed with everything. I think you should do something nice for her...find out what she likes to do, where she likes to eat and set something up. Good luck with everything and know that you are a good man for helping your fiance get through this troubled time.How to get that ';spark'; back?...(seeking female advice)?
My first thought was, ';umm, no wedding ring after a 15 year relationship?'; I would lose some sparks too.


Anyway, it seems she's getting burnt out...can she cut back to part-time student? She should be enjoying her 1st baby daughter more than being tied down with schooling.
Try a date night with just the two of you. Ask your mom or her mom or a friend if they would be willing to watch your daughter for the night. Take her out to her favorite restaurant. Just a night of you two. Maybe try doing a bubble bath with some wine and candles. It may be hard on her because she is going to school and has to take care of your daughter so she may think that is no time for just the two of you. Good luck.
It may be tough to pull off with your schedules, but a proven method to boost the connection and bring back the spark in a long term relationship is to do something completely different, together.


Take a class and learn a new hobby, take dance lessons or horseback riding lessons, go sky-diving, whatever. Seeing your partner in a new situation recreates that ';getting to know you'; stage of the early days of a relationship. Anything that boosts your adrenaline (roller coasters, rock climbing, etc.) is a bonus, as in the early days of infatuation the brain is flooded with such chemicals.


Good luck.